Experiences with individuals can range from very minimal contact to extreme contact, where an experience can be frightening to the point that they will become manic. No matter the outcome after an experience, it can leave someone in a better place than before, or it might make a situation worse, which is why you always treat every experience with the utmost respect and be as careful speaking to them about their experience. Most of the time, we find out that someone had an understanding by the individual reaching out for help to deal with or make sense of what happened. This is the first sign that someone needs help and should be referred to someone or an organization that specializes in caring for experiencers to ensure they receive the proper care. Once you speak to someone about their experience, you will realize how severe or how much help the person needs, and depending upon this, the right ways to assist this person come into play. One of the biggest things when assisting someone is not to question the individual on their experience; this can have a bad outcome and make a situation worse than it already is, so make sure your in this to help and pay attention to not make things worse.
Dr. Rima E. Laibow and associates have come up with a condition they call “Anomalous Trauma,” which is closely related to abduction experiences. This would account for much of the trauma that experiencers go through during their encounters, abductions, contact, etc. So when dealing with someone who has just experienced something extremely traumatic, they can be fragile, hard to understand by not making sense as they speak, questioning themselves by saying, “You Probably think I’m crazy,” or “I know this sounds nuts.” These traits are called “Anomalous Trauma,” which accounts for something traumatic that occurred during their experience and left a strong impression. As someone who has helped and worked with experiences, you must be the open ear and listen to the story; this way, you can create a way to help this individual; you must be the “shoulder to lean on,” as they say.
Once you have allowed your shoulder to be leaned on and have all the details told by the experience, it’s always good to reassure that you are not alone and that others have been in the same spot and experienced the same things. Once it’s understood that others have been in their position before, it allows them to know there is a community of people that have walked in their shoes. This is a great time to inform the individual that people are talking about their experiences and sharing their stories. This is then a perfect moment to start looking for meetings to attend to allow connections to start happening, which is what I call “When the Magic happens”! I usually go through some great sessions that match up with some of the events that fit with the individual experience to allow them to see how many people are in this fantastic community supporting one another. Once we have scheduled our meeting to attend, I usually for support will attend that first meeting so I can answer any questions and allow the individual to feel comfortable. With the meeting rolling and the chat room communicating, it’s good to encourage the experience to reach out and ask questions to get them involved. Most of the time, it will just happen naturally to where you will see them jump right in and start a conversation, and knowing the fantastic community of other experiencers, you know they will gladly help the individual along by answering questions, exchanging their personal experiences, making suggestions, and even offering to share information to make new friendships. By this time, the experience will see they are not alone and naturally feel more comfortable, even if it’s just a little bit because sometimes it can take time. They will begin to hear things from other experiences similar to their story or things that match theirs, giving the needed answers. After helping many experiences, there are just some of the most known ways to assist in helping someone in need.
We all know that not all experiences are the same and can range from the worst possible cases to the ones that are not as intense. Still, no matter the situation, every experience deserves to be treated with respect and should be given the same effort in assisting with help. I, at one time, was at the beginning of learning about my own experience, I have gone through these same steps to help me find my way in all this, and now I get to give back and help others in need by being a part of the MUFON ERT(Experiencer Resource Team)! MUFONS ERT is dedicated to helping experiencers with keeping their best interest in mind while walking them through the process of working through their experience. I have never been a part of a group of people that have dedicated so much of their time to helping people in need, and I’m honored to be a part of this Team!
Written by: Jesse Peak MUFON Field Investigator and MUFON ERT
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